Sunday, September 9, 2012

What Can I Say?

I am in a blog rut. 

The whole reason I started a "Mom Blog" is because I read Mom Blogs and comment.  I didn't want to be some creep without a blog that stalks moms, so I thought to be fair--I will write a blog.  I am funny as hell.  Surely, I will impress the other funny moms.

But it has been a fail.  I can't write funny. 

There are a few reasons.

I am too worried about offending people.  I think this explains why I really don't make new friends as an adult.  I have to stick with those I have known most of my life because they know me and aren't as likely to be offended and hate me as those who don't know me.  It isn't that I love people so much that I don't want to offend them.  Really, if you can't take a joke then you aren't my type of person.  It's the conflict I can't handle.  I have seen some very funny blogs where moms just use their true self to have fun, and they get hate mail.  I cannot handle it.  So maybe I am not worried about offending others--Maybe I am worried about ME being offended by people's comments.  I am a chicken shit.

There doesn't seem to be anything funny in my life at the moment.   If you are reading this, chances are you have read the 'other stuff' I have written about.  It ain't pretty.  It sure as hell ain't laughable.  Not yet anyway.  Maybe when she is happily married and with a career will I look back on this and laugh.  But right now, all I can think of is my niece and sister in law and the drug addicted life they lead.  They both have multiple children from multiple men and all of them are in foster homes or have been adopted.  They both have been arrested numerous times for things that women do when they are addicted to drugs.  I can't even type it.  But that stuff scares me!  They both were little girls that my husband and I saw grow up.  It is very real to us the horrors that can happen to a life.

I am still getting my feet wet.  I think it takes a while to find your voice for your audience.  I have been doing writing for academic papers and mental health blogs for so long now that I don't know how to write funny or write to an audience other than a professor or those looking for mental health info.  I have seen there are bloggers workshops and things like that to help a blogger develop his or her writing.  I am going to take advantage of this at one point.


I DO have an interesting life that is 'out of the ordinary'.

I live in an extremely liberal hippy town that I have a love/hate relationship with.  At the moment, I am in the hate phase.

I have a very analytical mind.

I homeschool my daughter.

I still haven't received my degree.

We have oodles of weird health issues.

I have a TEENAGER.

I have adorable animals.

AND I have PLENTY of material for making fun of myself.

So, later days Everyone.  I'll be in touch!!



  1. Don't stop.
    I think your right. It does take time to find your voice.
    I started a boring blog...I talked about my pinterest recipe finds, I showed off how handy I am with my self made potters bench and my patio redo... but so what. I bake. Big whoop.
    Then Thurs I wrote about me.
    Who I really am. About my relationships struggles with my Hubs. About his struggle with alcohol and I think...I found it. My voice.
    While I will still fill with fluff...because you can't be all heavy all the one lives like that. I can share my experiences and how we've come as far as we have. I can give some Hope to people who need it.
    I kinda think your struggles with your daughter can do the same.
    You are doing what you have to save her. Other people need to see that. Hear it. DO IT, for their own kids. Keep going. We are here.

  2. I agree, it's difficult to find your voice and can take some time. I'm doing the same thing now. I also get worried about offending people when I write certain stuff, but I just try to write my thoughts and walk a thin line - putting things more matter of fact than offensive. Good luck to you!

  3. I can't write crap! I just try to spell well and put the periods in the correct spots. Remember: no matter what you write, you will offend someone somewhere down the line. No one can please everyone: it's impossible...or at least that's what my therapist tells me. You must get your story out! Feel it! Do it!